As I indicated earlier, I want to post a few comments about what I’ve learned, or really re-learned, during this process. I think that there are more lessons to get out of this time than just a medical lesson or a new kidney. (Although, the new kidney is important to me and I don’t mean in any way to minimize the gift that Keith is giving and the sacrifice that he is making.) It is just that I want to focus for a few minutes on how Keith and I got here and what it may mean to all of us in life.
You see, I met Keith approximately five years ago when his firm began filing toxic tort cases in the East Texas area. I was retained by a business that was being sued to defend them in these lawsuits. (I won’t name the client or the exact nature of the cases. However, you should know that I have notified my client who the donor is and they are absolutely fine with that.) As many of you know when attorneys are on the opposite sides of cases they are “adversaries.” Sometimes the adversarial releationship leads to great animosity and a way of practicing that attempts to destroy the other person or attempts to “trap” them in a mistake. Thankfully, my client didn’t want their lawyer to practice that way and it is not the way I like to do business. And Keith didn’t approach litigation this way either. Law, just like life, is easier when you try to get along with the person on the other side of the issue from you.
Even though Keith and I have had thousands of cases against each other we became friends. Where we could we helped each other and we never have tried to destroy the other person. Our clients have been better off for it. Obviously, it was personally more gratifying to practice law this way. And now I will have a new kidney.
In life, politics, religion or anything else is always better when we try to get along with the person on the other side of the issue. Just because we are on opposite sides, adversaries with regard to our particular ideology so to speak, doesn’t mean that we can’t become friends and be tolerant.
This whole idea was again brought home, literally, to me on Sunday night. I dear friend of mine brought a gift by from his family. Now his family is not exactly like mine. We come from opposite sides of the world. We have different upbringing, cultures, traditions and even religions. Yet with this gift came a card. On the front of the card was this: “Don’t tell God how big your Montain is….” And on the inside: “….tell the mountain how big your God is! Praying for you and Trusting in His Love.” And the quote: “All that’s required is that you really believe and that you have no doubt.” Mark 11:23 (TLB) How special of this friend and his wife to honor and respect me at this time with this simple,yet special, card. How wonderful of them to honor my faith and views at this time. (And this is not the first time. They also brought a gift when our daughter was baptized.) Did I mention that we always take a gift and Eid and that our daughter has been to mosque. (How can we expect them to be open to us if we are not open to them.) Two families making an effort to understand each other and to honor and love each other.
Two of the nurses that were taking my blood and x-rays today, when told that a friend was donating the kidney, noted that God puts people in our lives for a purpose. So who has God put in your life and what is the purpose? Also, be nice to everyone, even your adversaries, you never know when you will need them. They may even change your life.